When should I come out of the broom closet? Do you have any tips for telling family and friends?
When one comes “out of the broom closet” is completely reliant on each person. This is a hard question because each person reacts differently to their family and friends expectations and influence. I am not afraid of confrontation and have never been one to play by the rules set before me, to when I started learning about Wicca my family took it in stride.
This may have been easier for me because I was learning from an aunt; therefore she had already broken the family in. I do have some family that believes I am wrong but rather than argue with them I tend to keep my beliefs to myself. It doesn’t help our relationship to shove it in their faces and so long as they do not shove theirs in mine, we get along fine.
I also find that it is easier for me to let others know my beliefs because I can stand firmly within them. I don’t argue with people about my way of life because I do not need to. Either they can accept them and me, or they can’t. If they are not someone that I can’t cut from my life then I simply don’t discuss religion with them.
Our true friends, while perhaps shocked and confused, will still be with as in the end. Our family is a bit trickier, especially if our parents are devout Christians, because their religious teachings and love for us can make them fear that we are condemning ourselves to eternal damnation.
Sometimes they will treat it as a phase that you will outgrow, sometimes they will argue with you all the time over it, and sometimes they will surprise you by not only embracing your new beliefs but sharing it with all their friends.
My mother is a Christian and we don’t agree on much when it comes to the Bible and the interpretation of it, but we love each other dearly and support each other.
My tip is honesty, love, and communication. And if you have been questioning for a while what your friends and family believe, trust me they know something is up. I will tell you in all honesty that not everyone will be fine with your new beliefs.
Even if your family and friends are, there will be someone out there in your life that will question you. They may even tell you how you are wrong and going to Hell. They may not say anything to you personally but they may say it to your children. You need to learn how to deal with these things as they arise.
Sometimes it is best to not say anything to the person, other times you may need to stand up for what you feel is right. All you can do is follow your heart in this situation.